BUHAY PAG IBIG: Paglalahad ng Isang Babaeng Natauhan!

Yung ibang tao, naiinggit. Wala kasing nagmamahal sa kanila. Yung iba naman, tatanga-tanga! Minamahal na nga nang todo, binabalewala lang! Alam mo, swerte ka sana kaso tatanga-tanga lang!

Minsan na kong nagmahal, minsan na kong naloko. Minsan na nga lang, naagaw pa! Pero di bale! Mas bagay naman sila, eh. Isang basura, isang basurera. Perfect match, diba?

Nung iniwan mo ko, ikaw ang sinisi ko kung bakit ako lubos na nasaktan. Mahal kasi kita pero di mo ko maintindihan. Ngayon salamat, ha? Kasi kung di mo ko iniwan, hindi ko siya matatagpuan.

Sometimes you tend to be in despair when your loved one doesn't love you back. But don't worry, don't cry much. Just close your eyes and whisper, "Mahal din ako nun. Pakipot lang."

When you ran, I chase you. You told me to stop following you. When I stopped, you got mad! Aminin mo na. In love ka rin sa kin, no?

If you ever find someone better, funnier or nicer than me, go ahead, hindi kita pipigilan. Pero pag iniwan ka ng gagong yun, tingin ka lang sa likod mo. Nandun ako, nang-aasar sayo, "Better than me pala, ha?"

Lagi ka na lang may rason. Nakalimutan mong tumawag, nakalimutan mong magtext, nakalimutan mong magpaalam. Pero ingat ka, ha? Baka pag naalala mong mahal mo ko, nakalimutan na kita.

Pag nakita mo na masaya ang mahal mo sa piling ng iba, wag kang malungkot o umiyak. Isipin mo na lang na masaya siya dahil mukhang clown ang kasama niya.

If I see you flirting with others, I won't cry. Instead I'll stand in front of you, chin up, stomach in, chest out at sabay sabi, "Mas masarap akong magmahal diyan. Sana wag mong pagsisihan!"

Kapag ikaw ang iniyakan ng lalaki, ang swerte mo dahil mahal ka nga niya! Pero pag ikaw ang umiyak dahil lang sa kanya, di ka lang malas, tanga ka pa! Lalaki lang yan, pwede ba?

Minsan lang magmahal ang pusong tanga. Niloko pa! Subukan kaya niya ang magmahal at lokohin din siya? Nang masabi niyang,"GOSH! Masakit pala!"

Nagkita kami ng ex mo kanina. Nalaman niyang tayo na. Pinagmasdan niya ko at bigla siyang tumawa. Sabay sabi, "Pang-ilan ka? Ako kasi yung una!" Sagot ko, "Una ka nga, ako naman ang last niya!"

When you love, don't give your 100%. Leave at least 70% for yourself so if ever he'll hurt you, you could still stand up to him and say, "Wala na bang mas sasakit pa diyan? Sus, walang kwenta!"

If someone leaves you, don't dare cry. Just smile and be happy. Pero bago mo siya tuluyang palayain, ibulong mo to sa kanya, "Maganda ako. Pasalamat ka pinatulan kita!"

Before, hinahabol kita pero di mo ako pinapansin. Tapos isang araw nawala ako, hinanap mo ako at tinanong, "Bakit ka nagsawa?" Ngumiti ako, "Hindi ako nagsawa. Natauhan lang."Pwede mo kong lokohin pero wag kang magpapahuli sakin.

Pwede mo kong palitan pero siguraduhin mong mas mahal mo siya sakin. Pwede mo kong iwan pero siguraduhin mong kaya mo. Kasi pag ako sobrang nasaktan, wala ka nang babalikan.

Boys? Pag trip ka, magpapakilala. Kaibigan kuno hanggang pumorma na. Tapos pag nahulog ka na, ayun, goodbye na dahil sawa na sila. Pero dapat walang iiyak ha dahil ... anong silbi ng karma?

I fell in love and got hurt but I didn't shed too much tears nor did I ask him to love me again. Instead, I stood up proudly and said, "Ganyan talaga ang magaganda! Hindi bagay sa tanga!"

Simple lang para hindi ka masaktan. Kapag minahal ka, mahalin mo din. Kapag ginago ka, gaguhin mo rin. Pero kapag umiyak ka, tanga ka! Ginago ka na nga, iiyakan mo pa?

The First Kiss Of Oral Sex

By Ian Kerner

Sex Education Correspondent

The approach

Never underestimate the power of first impressions, especially the impression of your lips against her vulva. This first kiss atop a woman's vulva is often the most exquisite of all possible kisses and can literally take her breath away.Approach the first kiss as an event, as though tasting the first sip of an expensive bottle of wine that you've been saving for that special occasion. Don't just pop off the cork and start swigging: Let it breathe, sniff and savor the bouquet, admire the body, note the complexion and tone, and then, finally, take that much-anticipated first sip. Allow yourself to appreciate the full experience.

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  Run your fingers gently through her pubic hair.
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  Be sure to tease her amply. Kiss her softly on the inner thigh, as well as the smooth skin adjoining her vulva. Kiss her with little, succulent smacks (lips pursed, no tongue) on her inner and outer lips, or even on the top of the head. Make sure that your first kiss is less about direct contact with the clitoris and more about appreciating the entire genital area.
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  Breathe hotly on her vulva.
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  Blow, ever so gently, on her clitoral head.
  If she's still wearing her panties, kiss her through them. Then delicately peel them to the side to reveal the glistening wet vulva.

Caution: Never, under any circumstances, blow into a woman's vagina as though trying to fill it with air. Doing so is seriously dangerous. Blowing into a woman's vagina may cause an embolism and lead to death. Breathe on her; blow lightly on her; never blow into her.

The moment before

Before you move in for the first kiss, take a moment to acknowledge the presence of the vulva: your partner in pleasure. Prepare yourself mentally for the experience ahead. Remind yourself that you are there to lead her steadfastly through the process of sexual response to orgasm.

This is a great time to remind her of the Three Assurances:

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  Going down on her turns you on; you enjoy it as much as she does.
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  There's no rush; she has all the time in the world. You want to savor every moment.
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  Her scent is provocative, her taste powerful: It all emanates from the same beautiful essence.

Like a guest arriving at a much-anticipated dinner party, let your hostess know how excited you are to be there, how beautiful she looks, and how much you're looking forward to the meal ahead. Put her at ease.

Tease her, taunt her, tantalize her -- make her think she's not ever going to get it, ever, and then, just when she's on the brink of utter madness, give it to her.

The kiss

Make your first lick a slow and tender "ice cream" lick from bottom to top. Make it long and lasting. Take it all in.

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  Start at the base of her vaginal entrance, the fourchette, and work your way up.
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  Take in the full length of her labia minora (inner lips) and let your tongue rest briefly against her frenulum, the area just under the clitoral head.
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  As you go over the head, brush it lightly as a feather, and then proceed to her front commissure (the area just above the head).
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  Push down on her front commissure with the tip of your tongue and feel the sinewy clitoral shaft beneath it.
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  As you kiss her slowly from top to bottom, press your finger lightly against her perineum (the expanse of skin just below her vaginal entrance).
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  When you lick the full span of her vaginal entrance, place your hand atop her mons pubis and nudge it gently toward her abdomen. This will stretch the skin and tighten her vaginal entrance, enabling you to lushly encompass her sensitive inner labia as you lick.
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  As an alternative to the standard position, grab hold of her upper thighs prior to the first kiss and pivot her legs up into the air so that only her butt is touching the bed and her vulva is completely exposed.No matter what your approach, take it long and slow, from bottom to top, and savor every step of the journey.

Now that you've lavished her with the first kiss (that long full lick), let your tongue rest flat against the length of her vaginal entrance. Encompass her vulva with your tongue. Take a moment to let the experience of the first kiss resonate.

Make sure it's love at first lick.

6 Ways To Ensure You Never Lose An Argument

By Chris Lumsdon
Relationship Correspondent

Regardless of the type of man you are -- strong with bold opinions, moderate with no taste for confrontation, or passive with a gelatinous backbone -- guess what? Unless you're made of wood, you're going to be dating, you are going to get into arguments, and the expectation (at least from the feminine perspective) is that you are going to lose those arguments.

Any type of man could, at any time, find himself in any kind of an argument. Maybe your pants were off when they really should have been on. Perhaps you zigged when you should have zagged, or, despite your best intentions, you just spoke out of turn.

The trick to saving face in a fight is to always be prepared. You wouldn't go out for a night on the town without some cash and a pressed shirt, would you? So why would you head into a relationship battle without your best artillery?

THERE ARE RULES TO FOLLOW:

Nobody wants to be that guy in the corner taking a browbeating from his best gal, especially when, whether that beaten man was wrong or right, he could have come out unscathed. Logic is frequently abandoned when arguing with your girlfriend for one reason: They will not admit they are wrong. Ever. Not going to happen -- so put it out of your head. No matter how compelling you may be, or how wrong she might be, fair is not the name of the game. The trick is this: proving to yourself that you're right, while making her believe she's right as well.Different men have different expectations about winning arguments, but the art of war is the same. Here are a number of tricks to ensure that you'll never lose an argument with your girlfriend.

1- Don't raise your voice

Regardless of the nature of your fight (your suggestion for ice cream taken to mean you want her to fatten up, or your failure to mention ice cream taken to mean she's too heavy already), watch your voice. No matter what you have planned in your defense, always speak softly. As the composed one, her anger will only need run its course. Settle in for a long one, but remember; if she joins you on a conversational level, you've won.

2- Be the first man to listen

Men have a reputation for being poor listeners. Be the exception. She wants to talk and yell, so let her. But when it comes time for you to cough up a defense, reiterate her points back to her to prove you're listening to -- and understand -- what she's saying.If you spend your cross-examination explaining herself to her by recapping her words, you may never actually have to ever have an original thought. And she'll think you're the keenest listener on the block.

3- Stay on the subject at hand

Whether the battle royale is about music, dinner reservations, Depp flicks, or the State of the Union, pick your battle and fight strong. Arguments are won or lost on the ability to prevent other gripes from creeping into the contest at hand. When the mood is confrontational, bring up nothing but that which you have been called out on.

4- Admit wrong & you win

Sometimes winning an argument is more about the aftermath than the battle. She can never, ever win a fight if you admit you are wrong first. Check your pride at the door. There will be tiffs in which you won't care if you're the victor. In these instances, no matter how much she wants to spar, lay down dead. Sometimes a nice glass jaw in the ring will score you big sensitivity points with the judges. The scorecards will come in, and the winner, by unanimous decision, will be you.

5- Play the emotional card

There are times when women just want to fight because they're feeling emotional. What we forget is that we men also want to fight because we are emotional. It is about the release; and what we are so ingrained to avoid, which has the same consummate effect, is letting the emotions flow.Fight strong, and fight with honor. But do not be afraid to act hurt by the things she says. To a woman, an aggressive man who shows emotion in the heat of an argument is the king of men. And you'll always win.

6- Tell her off

Many men have stood with their hand on the little button, ready to end life as we know it. It is where the men and boys are separated. If winning the argument is worth destroying the relationship, or destroying the relationship is worth winning back your life, then fire personal insults at will. Be warned: There is no going back after inputting this launch code. Remember that, sometimes, civilization as you know it is a tough thing to rebuild.

FOR ARGUMENT's SAKE:

Take all arguments with your ladies with massive grains of salt and remember; you can always win by letting her believe what she needs to believe. That should be clear about four seconds in.

Where we stumble is when we need to prove to ourselves that we can win no matter the contest. Don't forget that it is in our nature to protect what we believe. If we spent all our time getting along, there would be no such thing as make-up sex.

Show Her You’re Not Interested

By Tommy Jordan

Relationship Correspondent

In our society, it has become increasingly difficult to blow off a girl without people thinking you’re gay or weird -- even if she’s ugly. Fortunately, there are two ways to blow off a girl who is into you without anybody getting the wrong idea. The only problem is that one method is great and the other is terrible.One night, I was at a bar with a buddy of mine and one of his friends from work when two girls started closing in on my boys. So I sat back and observed two very different styles of blowing off women. My buddy subtly conveyed to one of the girls that he wasn’t interested in her, and before long, she got the hint and left with her dignity intact. On the other hand, his coworker went out of his way to be a jerk for no reason, and the girl left

humiliated.In case you didn’t have this figured out by your first semester in community college, nobody wants to hang with the guy who makes other people feel bad on purpose. The funny, slightly cocky guy? Sure, everybody likes that guy (especially the women). The guy who’s a jerk for no reason? Nope, everybody hates that guy. To make sure you fall into the first category -- and preserve your reputation for future pickups in the process -- here are some of the dos and don’ts of blowing her off.

DONT's

Call her the wrong name

Everybody knows you know her name because she just told you five minutes ago -- or maybe you've even known each other for months. You didn’t just suddenly forget her name, and everybody knows it -- including her. It’s a stupid move that only speaks to your immaturity.

Ignore her

If there is one thing every girl wants more than a new pair of shoes, it’s respect. Aretha Franklin made an entire career out of searching for some R-E-S-P-E-C-T. When you suddenly quit paying her any attention and ignore her altogether, you are being extremely disrespectful.

“Mistakenly” send her nasty messages about her

Don’t send her e-mails, text messages or voicemail messages that you “meant to send to your buddy Tommy” saying that she’s not your type or she has bad breath or other such nasty things. Not only will you hurt her feelings, but if she figures out you lied to her to get rid of her, she’ll be doubly upset. And keep in mind that this might backfire on you if she decides to seek revenge.So how do you let her know you’re not digging her without being a jerk or embarrassing her? A combination of these dos should do the trick.

DO's

Ask her about her hot friend

Women love to give advice and they are jealous of each other. Use both of these well-known facts to your advantage and ask her what you should do to hook up with her hot friend. While she may initially want to latch onto you more, she will ultimately get the hint that you’re just not feeling her, and she’ll probably even find a way to blame it on her friend -- double bonus points for you.

Tell her you have a friend that is perfect for her

After you’ve decided she’s not the one for you, use the information you’ve gathered on her to push her onto another guy. Point out how your buddy also cried when he saw the movie What Dreams May Come (1998), or any other common points they may have. Your buddy may be annoyed, but at least you’ll be rid of her.

Let her know how busy you are lately

Anytime she tries to contact you or you run into her, cut the conversation short. Bring up work, school or any other excuse to justify the fact that you have to run. Just be sure to point out that you love whatever it is that is taking up all your time and that you wouldn’t change a thing about your life.

Subtly highlight clashes of opinion

Politics, morals, values -- there are all kinds of hot-button issues you can subtly drop that will turn her off. If you know she’s a conservative, spout off something negative about the Bush administration and Fox News. If she has a kid, tell her you would never get involved with somebody who has children.

The not-so-direct approach

It sounds so simple, but spitting out the words “I’m just not that into you” can be extremely difficult. Get around this by letting her know that you’re just looking for a good time. Say something along the lines of how much you would love to hook up, but you respect her too much to make her just a ”friend with benefits.”

REJECT THE RIGHT WAY

Being rejected is hard enough for anybody, and we’ve all been there at one time or another. But nothing is worse than having the person who rejected you make a fool of you as well. And keep in mind that letting her down easy is also a way to ensure that she doesn’t tell all the women in town that you’re a jerk; in other words, it’s a form of dating insurance.

7 Masturbation Techniques

By David Strovny
Sex Education Correspondent

Sometimes, a guy just needs some alone time to reconnect. Then there are times when we just want to get some satisfaction without having to seduce and take our time pleasing someone else. And so, I introduce to you masturbation techniques.

Of course, I'm not suggesting that you begin masturbating chronically and show your girl the door. Oh no. But every now and then, if you feel the need to stroke it, here are seven masturbation techniques you should try out for a little variety.

1- The cold climax

In the first of our masturbation techniques, masturbate as you normally would, but when you feel the sensation of ejaculation coming on, grab hold of some ice cubes or crushed ice with the other hand, then continue masturbating to completion. The feeling of cold in one hand, heat in the other, and the sensation of ejaculating will enhance the experience.

2- Rings around your penis

Cover both your hands with lube, and form a ring with your thumb and forefinger. Place it around the base of your penis. Slide the ring up to the base of the glans (where the head starts). Now form a ring with the fingers on your other hand and do the same thing. Keep stroking with one ring at a time until you climax.

3- The palm rubber

Once you're erect, place some lube on the inside of one hand, and rather than rub your penis with your hand, keep rubbing the tip of your penis against the palm of your hand to orgasm.

4- The ball holder

The next time you're masturbating and feel as though you're about to ejaculate, put your other hand over your scrotum and lightly squeeze and pull it down (or more aggressively, if you like that sort of thing). That way, you get to feel your semen traveling through your body, making it's way to the exit.

5- The gentle tap

Although you have to have a sensitive penis for this to work effectively, this will at least demonstrate that you don't if it doesn't work. Keep your underwear on and make yourself erect. Once you're at your fullest erectness, tap the tip of your penis with the tips of your fingers. It should take somewhat longer than usual for you to reach climax but when you do, oh yeah...


6- Screw your hand

While standing, twist your lubed-up hand (whichever you're most comfortable using) so that your thumb is against your belly button. Wrap your hand around your penis and, rather than stroke with your hand, move your pelvis to pump in and out of your hand. It'll make you feel like you're actually penetrating a vagina. Okay, maybe not.

7- The plastic bag

In your bedroom (or someone else's if you wish), fill a plastic sandwich bag with petroleum jelly and put your erect penis in the bag, squishing the jelly so that your entire penis is covered. Then, place your penis, still in the bag, between the mattress and the box spring. Pump in and out to orgasm. The best part? No mess.

5 Foreplay Tips

By David Strovny

Sex Education Correspondent

Foreplay is the one thing women can't get enough of... okay, there are a few other things as well, but foreplay is an important one.

That said, here are five tips that'll help you turn everyday foreplay into something that will have any woman you seduce begging you to put it inside.

1- Talk & tease

he power of suggestion through foreplay can be as great as the sex itself for many women. If you can describe how you want to touch her, where, and with which of your body parts, she'll visualize it easily and eagerly. And if you know how to have sex with her brain, you can bet that she'll be begging you to have sex with the rest of her in due time.

If you need to touch her while you talk to her, avoid touching her breasts and vagina. Instead, focus your mouth and hands on her neck, wrists, inner thighs, lower back, and ears.

2- Get started in public

If your girlfriend doesn't start crying at the thought of public displays of affection (and you don't either, for that matter), try doing some fun things in public. And by fun things, I mean rubbing her breasts or patting her ass in a restaurant, kissing her passionately while having drinks at a bar, dirty dancing at a nightclub, etc. Make an effort to turn her on wherever you are.

If you show her that she turns you on via PDA, when you finally do find yourselves in a private situation, the good times will shake, rattle and roll.

3- Strip down

While I don't suggest you dance for her while you take off your socks, I do recommend that you remove your clothes slowly (especially if you're fit). Start by removing your socks, then your shirt, then your pants, and then your underwear.

At this point, undress her just as slowly. Sit her down and remove her clothing in the same order you removed yours.

4- Give her an oral & some fingers

Bring your fingers to her vaginal area and, with the tips of your fingers, rub her outer lips by spreading them apart and bringing them back together; that'll start the lubrication process.
When she begins to spread her legs even more, that's a clear indication that she wants you to touch the wet spot. At this point, you can start rubbing her inner lips lightly, and then move up to her clitoris, which you should rub in a circular motion.

After a few minutes, bring your mouth to the area and, while you continue to use your fingers to play around inside her, begin suckling her clitoris.

5- Watch some sex & kiss her

Porn is a great way to get you and your girl in the mood. Put on something that both of you can enjoy (preferably other couples having sex), and lay naked with each other while you watch it.

Every now and then, stop watching the movie and kiss her, or play with her body. Make sure to pay more attention to her than you do to the movie. As well, if you see something kinky, ask her if it turns her on. Get her imagination going. Remember; sexing a woman's brain is where it's at.

8 More Sexual Terms You Need To Know

It seems that sexual terms are everywhere and if you don't want to be left feeling like you're missing the joke, or worse, not understanding what your girl is referring to in the bedroom, here are a few terms you may want to remember.

Readers wrote in with anticipatory eagerness about the following words and phrases. With that, here they are.

1- Aussie kiss

A tame term for giving someone a French kiss, but "down under;" in other words, the act of performing oral sex on someone. How to use it in a sentence: "Last night, Jenny gave me the best Aussie kiss in the world, I thought I was going to pass out."

2- Balls on chin

Also referred to as "deep throat," the act of "balls on chin" involves getting a woman to take your penis so deep into her mouth that your testicles end up hitting her chin. How to use it in a sentence: "Just when I thought that my sex life with Katie couldn't get any better, this perfect woman took me all down with a balls on chin maneuver."

3- Banana juice

When said innocently, it sounds pretty tame, but when used in a sexual context, this term refers to a man's ejaculate. How to use it in a sentence: "I won't date a girl unless she's into downing my banana juice on a regular basis."

4- The "Bases"

The source of a common question from many men, the "bases" that we referred to in high school still remain unclear to this day.First base involves French kissing. Second base includes French kissing, and rubbing breasts and genitals through clothes. Third base includes French kissing, feeling and sucking naked breasts, mutual masturbation, and oral sex. Finally, a Home Run is full on sexual penetration. How to use it in a sentence: "It's been two weeks and I finally got to third base with Joanne last night. Tonight, I plan to hit a home run."

5- Cheese grater

When receiving fellatio from a woman with braces or, worse, lack of experience, she may end up performing in a way that feels somewhat like a "cheese grater" is being applied to your member, hence the term. How to use it in a sentence: "Oh man, I can barely walk after I got that awful cheese grater from that chick with the braces the other night."

6- Cliterature

Also referred to as "nudie magazines," although not as all-encompassing, "cliterature" refers to any pornographic reading material. How to use it in a sentence: "Of all the cliterature on the market today, Double D Delite is my favorite one-handed reading material by far."

7- Gloryholes

Small, baseball-sized holes between bathroom stalls or private booths at adult material stores. Each hole is raised to about average hip height, and allows for a man to place his penis through. On the other side is someone who will service the penis in some way. Used by both homosexuals and heterosexuals.How to use it in a sentence: "Forget dating women, I'd rather head to a gloryhole to get my rocks off than waste my time wining and dining a good-for-nothing golddigger."

8- Toss salad

Also referred to as "rimming," this act involves licking someone's anus. It may be done with sauces or syrups, or straight up. How to use it in a sentence: "I finally got Jane to toss my salad last night, and I must say, she really knows how to please a guy when it comes to the anal vicinity."

8 Male Pleasure Spots

I know you don't want to know where other guys want to be touched, but the thing is, do you even know where you want to be touched? After talking to thousands of women amid my career as a sexual correspondent, I realized that guys have only two places they usually think about being touched: their penises and their balls.

I mean, come on. Women are always complaining that guys head straight to their vaginas and breasts the second the clothes come off, and they want something more. Are you sure that you don't?

Of course you do, and so here I am to help you figure out where you want your girl to touch you before she heads to the parts that'll result in splash.

Without further ado, here they are, in no particular order:

1- Neck

If you don't know it yet, women love being touched, kissed and licked in this area, so chances are you'll enjoy it just as much as they do. The next time your woman is on top in the bedroom and comes close to your face, elongate your neck and let her do her thing.

2- Hair & head

No, I'm not suggesting that she lick your hair, but having a woman run her hands through your hair or squeeze her fingertips all along your scalp will help you relax and prepare for whatever else she wants to do to you.

3- Ears

Given that they're clean, having a woman lick and nibble on your earlobes, or even doing something as simple as telling you some nasty things she wants to do to you, can have a lasting effect on your erection.

4- Perineum

Located between your scrotum and your anus, this area can provide plenty of fantastic sensations for you. The next time she's greeting your penis with her mouth and hands, encourage her to apply some pressure with her fingers and/or her tongue. You'll be surprised at how much you'll like it.

5- Nipples

Now, this is not for every guy. Some guys love to have their nipples manipulated; others can't stand it. The only way to find out is by letting a woman try it. Let her lick and perhaps suck them. Who knows, if she enjoys doing it to you that much, this might be your "in" to getting her to try it on another woman next.

6- Fingers

If a woman has ever sucked your fingers, you know that it almost feels like she's sucking your penis. The next time you're engaging in foreplay, stick your middle finger in her mouth and let her suck on it, and see what comes up.

7- Anus

Some guys get freaked out about their backsides, but if you just open your mind, you'll discover that that's where your G-spot is. Whether you let her lick the rim of your anus or place a finger inside and make a "come hither" motion, you'll discover that letting a woman have her way in that area will make your sexual experiences that much better.

8- Back & coccyx

Sometimes lying on your stomach and letting your girl run her hands and tongue up and down your back is the best feeling in the world. From massaging you to giving you the chills by lightly running her tongue down the baby hairs on your back, submit to your girl and let her enjoy rubbing your back and your tailbone.

Understanding Her Sexual Body Language

When you're in bed with a woman, do you ever get the feeling that she's uncomfortable or that something is amiss? Can you read her body language?

Well, you might be right. Check out these body language movements and reactions that likely mean that something is up with your girl. And no one likes a sexual party pooper.

She won't look at you

If she lets you get inside her but won't even look up at you, something is definitely up. And not in a good way. If every time you lean in to kiss her, she turns her face and doesn't open her eyes, there is a problem.

Possible reasons: It's possible that she's shy and isn't very experienced in bed. If she won't let your mouth get anywhere near hers, you might have bad breath, she might have bad breath, your facial hair might be scraping her face or, if you went down on her, she might find it "distasteful" to kiss afterwards.

Fix it: The next time you're having sex, pull out, make your way to her face, hold either side with both hands and kiss her. If you feel like she wants to pull away, ask her what the dilly is, yo. The only way to figure out why she's reacting that way is by asking.

Her expressions are stoic

If you're giving the session your all and she's staring into space or focusing all her attention on the ceiling, something has got to give.
Possible reasons: It's possible that she doesn't like sex much. As well, she might want to be engaging in some other sex act and is afraid to tell you about it. Maybe she wants to be on top. Maybe you're not giving her enough room to maneuver.
Fix it: Put her on top and tell her you want to watch her move. Or, when you're not having sex, ask her about her sexual fantasies; maybe that'll help you get to the bottom of her body language behavior.

She doesn't move

You're pulling out all the stops; you're going down, coming up, licking, kissing, biting, rubbing, and all that good stuff. And she just lies there. Like a corpse.

Possible reasons: She may not like sex. Or she may not like having it with you. Or worse, she might think that all she's actually required to do is be present. As hard as it may be to believe, there are women who think that lying there amounts to participation.

Fix it: Dude, say something. Ask her if she feels desired by your actions; if she says she does, then tell her you would like to feel that way too. If you're too shy to communicate verbally about this ordeal, then tell her that you'd like to role-play and switch positions. Let her be you and you be her. Her body language will almost certainly change. Problem solved; orgasms for everyone.

She acts like a guy

Okay, so this might be a gross generalization, but she might do things like orgasm and then want to stop, not let you touch her after it's over or forego foreplay entirely.

Possible reasons: I don't see the problem... Just kidding. Everyone has differing desires when it comes to the realm of sex, so rather than judge her, find out what's behind the behavior. She may prefer straight-up sex with no frills, or she may simply place more importance on her own orgasm than on yours.

Fix it: If you want foreplay, then seduce her. If you want to ensure that you orgasm as well, ask her if she's satisfied; if she says yes, then tell her you want to feel just as good as she does.

She hides her body

She won't get naked. When she leaves the room, she backs away slowly. She needs to have all the lights off when you have sex and the blankets need to be covering her.
Possible reasons: Well, there's no doubt that she's insecure about her body, and she thinks you might get turned off if you see all her flaws.

Fix it: Show her that even though you have flaws, you know that she loves you anyway (but don't point them out to her). Tell her that you think she's awesome and that you appreciate her body in all its glory. Even if you don't.

She never reciprocates

You go down on her and take your time, making sure to please her in every way possible, but she never goes down on you. You seduce her constantly, doing your best to turn her on and make her enjoy the sex, and yet she never comes on to you or initiates sex.

Possible reasons: First, it's possible she thinks that it's your responsibility to turn her on, and not the other way around. Second, some women think that guys get turned on just by seeing a girl, so therefore she doesn't really have to come on to you.

Fix it: Tell her that you love receiving oral sex and you fantasize about how great she would be at it. Tell her that it's important for you to feel desired and that she can show you by coming onto you every now and again. That ought to do it.

11 Things That Turn Guys Off During Sex

As hard as it may be to believe, there are many times when women do things in bed and guys find it disgusting, or at least a turnoff. What are they thinking? Who are these guys? And how often do they get laid for them to act like divas?

The thing is, it's normal to let things slide when we haven't been getting any, but as time passes and you continue to sleep with the same person over and over again, you discover things about their bedroom behavior that may be, well, not to your liking.

Read on to find out what you have in common, or rather don't, with the 100 guys I surveyed recently.

1- She grinds her teeth on your penis

If you like this, then you're a bigger man than most. Most guys cannot stand the feel of teeth grinding against the base of their penis, or worse, grinding against the head.

2- She yanks your testicles

It's one thing for her to cup the boys and even lick them. It's a whole other ball game, literally, when she starts pulling on them as though they're detachable. Annoying, to say the least.

3- She sticks her fingers in the wrong places

By wrong places, I mean your butt. Now don't get me wrong, some guys love the feel of having fingers, or even objects inserted into their anal cavities, but when there's no warning of what's about to occur, it can be a very disturbing feeling -- not to mention it can make the rest of the session feel very awkward.

4- She licks it like it's a lollipop

While most of us are thankful when a girl goes down at all, there is a wrong way and a right way to perform on a man. When a girl begins literally licking your penis without covering it with her mouth at any point, it can lead to frustration and ruin the sensation.

5- Keeps sucking when you're sensitive

She sucks the head of your penis, you almost hit the roof, tell her it's sensitive and for some reason, she doesn't listen and continues to suck on it like a madwoman. Usually, however, this happens after you've ejaculated, so you can tell her off without fear of not getting sex. Just kidding.

6- Stops doing something you're enjoying

You're saying things like "oh yeah," "right there," "this feels so good," "that's perfect," and what does she do? She stops what she's doing and starts doing something else. What the...?!?!?

7- She pinches your nipples excessively

It's one thing for her to kiss, lick and even gently suck your nipples, but when she starts trying to tune into Tokyo, the problems begin. Why would any woman think that pinching our nipple into numbness is a good idea? It's appalling.

8- Talks too nasty

It's one thing to have a woman talk dirty; we like that. It's a whole other story when she overuses words like "daddy, nasty, whore, f*ck," and a whole bunch of other derogatory words that I am too ashamed to mention. Just kidding, it's because we tend to associate women with softness, and although we fantasize about nasty girls, we don't want them to get too nasty.

9- She's insecure

It's one thing for a woman to be shy, but it really ruins the mood when all the lights have to be off, the covers have to be over both of you, and of course, she backs out of the room facing you. It's just wrong and if it turns you off, you're not alone.

10- She won't try new things

You want to get into some new positions; she's not having it. You want to role-play; she starts a fight accusing you of wanting her to be someone else. You want to ask her friend Donna to join the two of you in the bedroom; she thinks that you desire someone else. Okay, maybe the last one is pushing it a little bit, but it is tough spending time with someone who isn't on the same sexual wavelength as you.

11- She constantly queefs

It's one thing when she lets out a random vaginal fart, but when they are a constant in every sexual encounter, the noise can definitely have a negative effect on our morale. Even if it is partly our fault, no one likes the sounds of farts when they're trying to get off or get it on.

10 Tips For Better Sex

Nothing makes a hard day's work swing by faster than the promise of good sex come evening. To keep it fresh and ripe, you gotta try new things in the bedroom. Otherwise your sex could become routine.Whether it's learning to control your premature orgasm or intensifying hers, these 10 pointers will lead to better sex with your girl.

1- Hinder one sense

You know how the blind are said to have remarkably attuned hearing and touch senses? This is due to the brain donating more processing power to these other senses, making them more acute. To get this effect with your woman, blindfold her. This will heighten her other senses and block out any distractions. With a lack of sensory input from her eyes, her brain will be free to process all the sensual and erotic sensations you are about to give her resulting in better sex for both of you.

2- Use a vibrator

Many women own a vibrator. Use it with her. Run the vibrator over her clitoris amid foreplay and intercourse, while touching her breasts with your hands and mouth. She can't help but feel stimulated all over.

3- Give each other massages

Sensual touching is the best kind of foreplay. After she gets out of the shower, get her to lay on the bed, belly down, and give her a firm yet gentle rubdown, paying special attention to any tight muscles. You can massage her back, feet or entire body, but this can be time consuming and may end up making her relax too much. Your objective is to keep her stimulated.

4- Role play

Whether you want to dress up like a doctor with her as a nurse, or pretend to be other people without costumes, it can be extremely freeing to leave your identity behind for an hour or so. Here's a little game that'll spice things up: Call her by a different name and pretend you're strangers. But give the situation a whole backstory. For instance, she's a dancer on her way to dance school, when she got stuck in a torrential snowstorm. You were nice enough to give her a place to stay and a warm bed to sleep in. Then slowly seduce her.

5- Talk dirty to her

The process of seduction and foreplay can begin before you even touch her. Plant the seeds of sex with words. Tell her what you want to do to her, then do it. This is a grand way of testing any new ideas you have before you actually bring them into your repertoire. Lean right into her ear, get your voice on and let loose. When it comes to better sex, foreplay and seduction are extremely important.

6- Try a new position

When is the last time you had sex with her on a chair? Try some unusual, unique positions. It's not all about the missionary, doggie and her-on-top positions. There are a million and one sexual positions to try. In fact, you can create them. Just find a new way for your penis to go into her vagina. Buy the Kama Sutra, the quintessential reference book for sex positions.

7- Work out before sex

People usually feel most content a few hours after a workout. Your brain is still swimming in endorphins and your muscles are sore. Nothing feels better than having sex after you're recovering from releasing all your physical energy and stress. Give yourself at least an hour after training before you try to get it on. Say you go running for 30 minutes, when you get home take a shower, relax in a towel and let her show you a good time.

8- Talk about your sexual desires

Picturing your woman in various sexual situations can be an incredible turn-on and lead to better sex. Have her tell you all her fantasies first-hand. Let her describe how she wants sex during her lunch break and in the parking lot at the movies. But the coup de grce of sex talk is getting her to fulfill your fantasies verbally. Bringing another woman into the picture, for instance, even in words alone, is sure to heighten your arousal.

9- Control Mr. Quickie

If you're not lasting as long as you'd like to, try wearing a condom (if you're not already) or try distracting your mind with non-sexual thoughts. Another tactic you can resort to is to perform oral sex on her, and forbid her from stimulating you. This way you have some time to build up your stamina and you get a head start on bringing her to orgasm.

10- Find & hit her G-spotThe magical G-spot is not the stuff of legend.

It is real, but is very hard to hit with the penis in any accurate way. Women will go mad if you find it with your fingers. Here's how: Say you're facing her. Insert two fingers into her vagina and bend your them into a "come hither" motion. The fleshy bump about 3 inches inside her is the G-spot. You've already accomplished what 90% of men cannot.Massage this little bean-sized nodule paying close attention to her reaction. When you get it right, it will swell up and become firmer. Some women love this and others claim it hurts. Be responsive, go slow and be gentle.

Fries are not made from 100% potato.

When fast-food restaurants started, fries were made from real potatoes, which were peeled and sliced each morning. Today, nearly all fast-food fries arrive at the restaurants frozen and processed.

Since potatoes become discolored during the freezing process (when they are stored in temperatures below 45 F), they must be treated with sulphites at the production plant to avoid this natural phenomenon. Oh, and there is no peeling or slicing involved -- all fries are now made with machines.

Sulfur dioxide is also commonly used to bleach the fries, which gives them a nice, white appearance when frozen. Also, a sugar dip is sometimes used to improve the sugar content of the potatoes.

In addition to these preservative agents, the fries are cooked in hydrogenated oils -- molecularly changed oils that are used in a variety of processed foods and are toxic to the body. Hydrogenated oils preserve the consistency and longevity of the fries, which means that it takes a long time before they get soggy or moldy. Hydrogenated oils have been linked to heart disease, diabetes and cancer.

So if you thought that you were on your way to getting your five-veggies-a-day by ordering fries, think again. You're not really eating only potatoes.

Fast-food meals contain common food allergy ingredients, but they don't tell you which ones.

There are a variety of different ingredients used in even the most simple fast-food products you purchase at your local drive-thru. So if you have food allergies, you may want to think twice before you visit the golden arches.

A sausage burrito at McDonald's contains more than 50 different ingredients, including milk, egg, wheat, corn syrup, and a range of chemicals and preservative agents. The hash browns are cooked with animal products and the bacon contains wheat and soy.

Some fast-food joints, like Jack in the Box, spell out the most common sources of food allergies and then mention that one or more of their products may contain the allergens, but they don't specify which ones. Just covering all their bases, we think. Our advice: order a diet cola.

Fast Food Industry Secrets

The U.S. has more than 300 types of fast-food chains; combined, these artery-clogging joints account for more than 40% of the nation's total restaurant sales.

It seems as though the nation's obsession with burgers and fries should be weakening; after all, the government has launched numerous campaigns to combat obesity and encourage people to eat more fruits and vegetables. But with Americans spending more than $110 billion on fast food annually (up from $6 billion in 1970), the plan does not seem to be working.

One out of every four people in the U.S. eats fast food every day and one out of every five toddlers eats fries every day. The "golden arches" logo is more recognized than the Christian cross and studies show that many children recognize the arches before they can even recognize their own name.

It's cheap, it's fast and it delivers a greasy punch that can cure nearly any hangover. But the one-food-fits-all idea that has served billions since its inception may not sound so tempting after you read about some if its shortcuts and secrets.

Find out how your favorite fast-food restaurant is cooking your next meal.

The flavor in the fries is not potato -- it's meat.

Everyone knows that you can't order a burger without a side of fries. To that end, fast food chains have been working for years to master the art of the fry and keep their loyal customers happy.

What the average person does not realize is that the taste of a French fry is not determined by the potato, but rather by the way the potato is cooked. Until very recently, McDonald's fries were cooked with 93% beef tallow -- their fries had more saturated fat than a hamburger!

Due to some bad publicity regarding the amount of cholesterol in their fries, they switched to vegetable oil in 1990. However, McDonald's still continues to use an ingredient they refer to as "natural flavoring," which they admit comes from an animal (they just won't reveal which one).

There are animal by-products in the milkshakes.

The average strawberry milkshake at a fast-food restaurant contains more than 50 different chemicals, many of which could only be deciphered by a scientist. In addition to these four- and five-syllable words in the ingredient list, they also contain something called "natural flavoring," which, as aforementioned, may in fact come from nature, but not in the form that you'd expect.

The Food and Drug Administration insists that to claim the use of "natural ingredients" in a food product, the ingredients have to be derived from natural sources. Natural sources include herbs, spices, yeast, roots, fruits, vegetables, beef, chicken, and other animals. Therefore, the natural flavoring in your strawberry shake is probably not strawberry.

In fact, we learned that many fast food chains do use animal products like gelatin to add taste and thickness to their milkshakes.

There may be beef in your chicken.

here are many myths that suggest that fast-food hamburgers are not really made from beef. Well, we're going to give the fast-food chains a little credit here: most of them are now made with 100% real beef. However, what we've learned is that many chicken products at fast-food restaurants also include beef -- most notably, the nuggets and sandwiches. These alleged chicken meals contain beef products to deliver extra flavor (hey, it worked with the fries!).

In addition to the part-beef, part-chicken sandwiches, many other products are also likely to be packed with flavor additives to provide extra taste.

When you order a hickory smoked bacon cheeseburger, it doesn't really come from a hickory barbecue grill outside. Everything in a fast-food restaurant is cooked on the same greasy grill, which would logically give everything the same greasy taste.

So how do they get that rich, smoky taste when everything tastes like oil from the grill? They process the meat with flavor additives. These additives are created by scientists in a lab, who can make anything from mesquite BBQ to chipotle ranch simply by mixing a few chemicals together.
The guy who made your burger may not have washed his hands after using the bathroom. Dateline NBC, the news magazine famous for revealing secrets about big industries, was the first media outlet to do a national survey on the overall cleanliness of fast-food chains.

Dateline journalists went undercover to discover the dirty truth about the top 10 fast-food chains in the nation. After studying a sample of 1,000 restaurants across 38 states, they found that most had a few cleanliness violations.

In their research, the Dateline crew found rodents and insects (alive and dead), grime and debris in several chains. At a Taco Bell in California, a man found a piece of chewing gum in his taco. A customer at Hardee's in Florida was handed a soda with blood dripping from the cup (he was also given back bloody change after he paid for his meal). At a Wendy's in Chicago, inspectors found a dead rodent decaying in a trap in the kitchen area.

More than 60% of the restaurants had what experts refer to as "critical violations," which are benchmarks for judging a restaurant's cleanliness. Critical violations can fuel food-borne illnesses (such as salmonella) and, aside from that, are just nasty.

The most common violations in fast-food chains? Employees not washing their hands (in some chains, there was no soap in the bathrooms), improper food holding temperatures, undercooked meat, and employees handling food with their bare hands.

How to snag that guy even if he's with his friends

Often, when we go to a club or bar we see or encounter a guy that we find very attractive. However, sometimes it can be a little intimidating to approach him when he's with his friends. Here's how to snag that cute guy in the bar or club.

Make eye contact with the guy you're interested in. If he does not see you, pass by him, dance next to him or figure out a way for him to notice you.

Be sure not to draw too much attention to yourself (i.e. don't make a scene)

Glance at him several times, but don't stare. If he is interested, he will return your glances.

Once he returns your glance, give him a slight shy smile. This lets him know that you are interested.

If he is with his friends he will continue talking or dancing with them, but will return glances with you.

At this point, if you are not shy, walk up to the group and tap him on the shoulder.

Say "excuse me" to him and his friends. This will let his friends know that you don't mean to be rude.

If you are shy, then pass by him, smile and give a slight gesture for him to come to you or follow you to a quiet corner.

If he is interested and not shy he will figure out a way to come up to you or follow you.

Introduce yourself. Sometimes a mere "Hi, I'm …What's your name?" will do. This will start a conversation. Continue the conversation if you can or just dance together. Just be natural. If he likes you, there's no need to be nervous.

Don't be alarmed if he ends the conversation or dance to go back to his friends. This doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't like you. Keep in mind, he may be nervous as well.

Let him know that it was nice talking to him and offer to either give him a call or give him your telephone number. Exchange numbers or information.

Return to the original place you were or dancing and continue to look as cute as your are.

Finally, relax and congratulate yourself for taking a chance. Don't worry, if he doesn't call then it wasn't meant to be anyway.

The TOP 10 Immortals

The dream of living forever is an old one for humanity, as evidenced by characters in our myths, literature and movies. From Tithonus to Dorian Gray and Highlander, LiveScience reviews some of our culture's most famous immortals.

10. Peter Pan

The famous boy who never grows up (or old), prefers instead to cavort with fairies and fight one-handed pirates on the magical isle of Neverland.

9. Dracula

If you're really desperate to live forever, you could try getting bitten by Dracula or one of his vampire underlings. But then you'll have to avoid Italian food and do nasty things like drink blood, avoid sunlight and sleep in coffins.

8. Lazarus Long

A character in many of Robert Heinlein’s science fiction novels, Lazarus’ long life is the result of a selective breeding program and occasional blood rejuvenation treatments. Lazarus lives to be over 2,000 years old; he travels to distant planets and even through time, and works every conceivable job, from doctor to slave.

7. Nicolas Flamel

In “Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone,” Nicolas Flamel is a good friend of Hogwart’s headmaster Albus Dumbledore. Author J.K. Rowling based Flamel's character on a real-life French 15th-century alchemist who legend claims successfully created the Philosopher’s Stone, a mythical elixir that turns lead into gold and grants eternal life.

6. Tithonus

When the Greek goddess Eos asks Zeus to grant her mortal lover, Tithonus, eternal life, she forgets to also ask for eternal youth. Tithonus indeed lives forever, but he grows old and frail, and begs for death. Some stories say that Tithonus eventually became a grasshopper.

5. Dorian Gray

An Oscar Wilde character that remains young and handsome while his portrait ages. Dorian slowly becomes corrupt, but his crimes and his true age show only in the face of the painting, which grows progressively more monstrous and withered.

4. Highlander

In the 1986 movie “Highlander,” Connor MacLeod is a member of the immortals, a mysterious race who die only when their heads are lopped off. The immortals must battle each other until only one is left to claim The Prize: The gift of mortality and the ability to die like everyone else.

3. Grail Knight

A knight of the First Crusade who, in “Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade,” is tasked with guarding the Holy Grail, a crucible that grants eternal life to any who drink from it. When Indy chooses the correct Grail from multiple imposters, the knight warns him that it cannot be taken beyond the temple, because that is the price of immortality.

2. Methuselah

Methuselah is the oldest person whose age is mentioned in the Old Testament of the Bible. He is the grandfather of Noah of "Ark" fame. Methuselah became a father at the age of 187, lived to be 969 and died the day the Great Flood appeared.

1. Arwen

A half-elven maiden in J.R.R. Tolkien’s “Lord of the Rings” who renounces eternal life to marry her mortal sweetheart, Aragorn, the human king of Gondor. Arwen dies shortly after Aragorn, at the ripe old age of 2,901.

Why we LIE?

By Robin Lloyd

Special to LiveScience

We all lie, all the time. It causes problems, to say the least. So why do we do it?

It boils down to the shifting sands of the self and trying to look good both to ourselves and others, experts say.

"It's tied in with self-esteem," says University of Massachusetts psychologist Robert Feldman. "We find that as soon as people feel that their self-esteem is threatened, they immediately begin to lie at higher levels.

"Not all lies are harmful. In fact, sometimes lying is the best approach for protecting privacy and ourselves and others from malice, some researchers say. Some deception, such as boasting and lies in the name of tact and politeness, can be classified as less than serious. But bald-faced lies (whether they involve leaving out the truth or putting in something false), are harmful, as they corrode trust and intimacy—the glue of society.

Kidding yourself

Many animals engage in deception, or deliberately misleading another, but only humans are wired to deceive both themselves and others, researchers say. People are so engaged in managing how others perceive them that they are often unable to separate truth from fiction in their own minds, Feldman's research shows.

For instance, In one experiment, Feldman put two strangers in a room together. They were videotaped while they conversed. Later, independently, each was asked to view the tape and identify anything they had said that was not entirely accurate.

Rather than defining what counts as a lie and to avoid the moral tone of the word "lie," Feldman's experimenters simply asked subjects after the fact to identify anything they had said in the video that was "not entirely accurate."

Initially, "Each subject said, 'Oh, I was entirely accurate,'" Feldman told LiveScience. Upon watching themselves on video, subjects were genuinely surprised to discover they had said something inaccurate. The lies ranged from pretending to like someone they actually disliked to falsely claiming to be the star of a rock band.

The study, published in the Journal of Basic and Applied Psychology, found that 60 percent of people had lied at least once during the 10-minute conversation, saying an average of 2.92 inaccurate things.

"People almost lie reflexively," Feldman says. "They don't think about it as part of their normal social discourse." But it is, the research showed.

"We're trying not so much to impress other people but to maintain a view of ourselves that is consistent with the way they would like us to be," Feldman said. We want to be agreeable, to make the social situation smoother or easier, and to avoid insulting others through disagreement or discord.

Men lie no more than women, but they tend to lie to make themselves look better, while women are more likely to lie to make the other person feel better.

Extroverts tend to lie more than introverts, Feldman found in similar research involving a job-interview situation.

Workplace lies

Other research has delved into prevarication in the workplace.

Self-esteem and threats to our sense of self are also drivers when it comes to lying to co-workers, rather than strangers, says Jennifer Argo of the University of Alberta.

A recent study she co-authored showed that people are even more willing to lie to coworkers than they are to strangers.

"We want to both look good when we are in the company of others (especially people we care about), and we want to protect our self-worth," Argo told LiveScience.

The experiment involved reading a scenario to a subject, telling them they had paid more than a coworker for the same new car. When the coworker, in the scenario, mentioned what they had paid, $200 or $2,000 more in different versions of the experiment, the subject was asked to report how they would respond.

Argo found that her subjects were more willing to lie when the price difference was small and when they were talking to a coworker rather than to a stranger.

Consumers lie to protect their public and private selves, she wrote in the Journal of Consumer Research with her colleagues from the University of Calgary and University of British Columbia.

Argo said she was surprised that people are so willing to lie to someone they know even over a small price discrepancy.

"I guess closely tied to this is that people appear to be short-term focused when they decide to deceive someone—save my self-image and self-worth now, but later on if the deceived individual finds out it can have long-term consequences," she said.

Feldman says people should become more aware of the extent to which we tend to lie and that honesty yields more genuine relationships and trust. "The default ought to be to be honest and accurate ... We're better off if honesty is the norm. It's like the old saying: honesty is the best policy."

KISSING Lessons

We have been getting a lot of advice questions on how to kiss. People have been asking what is the proper way to kiss and how does one French kiss properly. We have provided you with some tips on how to kiss properly, giving you some ideas on what to expect and how to make that romantic moment the best it can be.

Kissing is probably the most physically romantic two people can get. There really is no wrong way to kiss. The thing to remember is that everybody kisses differently and different people prefer different ways of kissing. Some people, believe it or not, are appalled at the idea of French Kissing or using your tongue while you kiss. While others can't imagine kissing without using your tongue. The thing is to try kissing that person a few times before deciding how you and your partner prefer kissing and to get used to the way that person kisses.

A first kiss should always be done while the two of you are alone. This will help to avoid any unnecessary nervousness and embarrassing situations. The best type of kiss is one that uses different variations, such as starting with a small kiss, working into a French Kiss, maybe sucking on your partner's upper or lower lip, then trying the other two types. And don't just leave kisses to the lips. Kiss their cheeks, their chin or their eyelids. This can be very seductive and romantic. The perfect kiss is one that is done with someone you really care about. There is more caring and sincerity in a kiss with someone special than with someone you hardly know, although a really good kiss can certainly bring two people closer together.

A lot of people have been writing to us on how to overcome the fear of kissing someone. Our answer would be to not kiss that person right away. Wait until an attraction builds between the two of you and a romantic situation evolves. Go out with the person a couple of times before having that first kiss.

Basic Kissing Tips

Great Breath - This is very important. Make sure you brush your teeth before going out on your date. There is nothing worse than kissing someone with bad breath. If your date consists of having something to eat before the actual kiss, make sure you have a mint on hand to take right after you finish eating. Don't take the mint just before the kiss or chew on gum. You don't want to have something in your mouth when you kiss.

Moist Lips - You want your lips to be slightly moist when you kiss. Run your tongue over your lips once before you kiss. Don't wear lip gloss because that tends to make the kiss too gooey. And don't wear a lot of lipstick unless you want your partner to wear it too after the kiss. Slightly moist lips makes it easier to move your lips over your partner's and gives both you and your partner a more pleasant experience.

Positioning - Stand close to your partner. As the two of you move closer together tilt your head slightly to one side. If you don't, don't worry about it. Your partner will still tilt their head slightly so your lips meet on a slight angle or they will kiss you straight on. If you can see which way your partner's head is tilting, tilt your head slightly in the opposite direction.

Close Eyes - Just before your lips meet, close your eyes. Some people prefer to leave their eyes open during the kiss. But until you know what your partner prefers, it is best to close your eyes. Kissing with your eyes open, looking into one another's eyes while you kiss, can be very erotic and some people find it quite enjoyable. You may want to try kissing this way once you're more comfortable kissing your partner.

Open Lips - Open your mouth slightly and place your lips over your partner's lips. Do not hold your breath! Breath through your nose. As your lips meet, press them gently over your partner's. You may wish to move your lips in a slow, circular motion or just leave them still over your partners.

Closed Lips - This is like the type of kiss you'd give your grandma or aunt. Instead of opening your mouth when your lips meet, keep them closed. This is also a good way of letting your partner know this is as far as it goes. It also makes a great hello/good-bye kiss or a great first time kiss if you're nervous.

Hands - There are many ways you can use your hands during a kiss. The most popular way is to put one hand on your partner's waist and the other one against the middle of their back. Other ways to use your hands are to cup your partner's face in your hands (very romantic!), put them around your partner's neck, put them around their waist, hold your partner's upper or lower arms gently, run your finger's through their hair, or just hold their hands in yours.

French Kissing

This is the most popular type of kiss. This involves touching your tongue with your partner's and it can be quite a pleasant experience. There are a few tips to create a great french kiss.

Open Lips - Open your lips "slightly" more than you would during a regular kiss. This makes it easier to place your tongue in your partner's mouth.

Tongue - Place the tip of your tongue on the tip of your partner's tongue. Do not force your tongue too far into their mouth. If you wish, you can play with their tongue by circling theirs with your own, running the tip of your tongue along theirs, darting your tongue in and out of their mouth teasingly, or running the tip of your tongue along their teeth or roof of their mouth. If all else fails and you're still unsure of what to do, just use your tongue the way your partner uses theirs. Have fun with it! Explore!

Lips - You may explore different ways of using your tongue. Try running the tip of your tongue over your partner's lips. Do this slowly and gently, just using the tip of your tongue.

Suck Kissing

This can be a very seductive type of kiss. Instead of French Kissing with your mouth open, while your partner's lips are parted suck on their top our bottom lip with your own, just for a second or two. Then go back to another type of kiss or try the other lip.

Nip Kissing

This type of kiss has to be done carefully, but when done correctly can create a wonderful effect on your partner. While suck kissing, gently bite their lip, but be VERY gentle so as not to hurt your partner. This kiss should only be done with someone that you've kissed a few times before, otherwise you may shock your partner.

Surprise Kissing

This type of kiss is done when your partner is lying down on a sofa or the ground, either asleep or just lying with their eyes closed. Quietly approach your partner and place a small, very gentle kiss on their lips. Intensify the kiss until your partner opens their eyes or awakens.

Vaccuum Kissing

This is a playful kiss. While in an open-mouthed kiss, suck in deeply so you're sucking the air from your partner.

Cordial Kissing

Take a sip of your favorite drink, either alcohol or something sweet, and then when your lips meet pour the drink in your partner's mouth. Only take a very small sip.

Butterfly Kissing

Put your eye really close to your partner's cheek and flutter your lashes upon their skin. You can also do this on their lips.

Melt Kissing

Pass an ice cube back and forth in mouth while French kissing.

Marathon Kissing

See how long you can kiss for (try 5 - 10 minutes straight)

Glowstick Frenzy

Pass the mini mouth glowstick back and forth (same thing as melt kissing).

Tongue Sucking

When you have the chance to get really deep into your partners mouth, suck on their tongue as far as you can. Don't suck too hard, you don't want to hurt your partner. Otherwise it's very pleasing!

Candy Kiss

Use either a Jolly Rancher or some type of hard candy/mint. Either you or your partner place the candy in your/their mouth and then it is like a game of keep away. Whoever starts tries to keep the candy in their mouth while the other person tries to get it in theirs. But you can only use your tongue and lips. This can be very fun if you have the right partner!!! Enjoy.